Books by Dacher Keltner
I love the premise he talks about. To me it means, if you want a life with good, kind people, you have to be good and kind. It means if you grew up with cruelty and fighting, you tend to find people who will give you this through out the rest of your life. I realized I could have a relationship with anyone and not have it cause me pain and suffering. I now look at things differently. Instead of believing I have to be strong and tough and fight for what I think is right, I can be kind and loving and leave the rest up to others. If someone is going to be cruel they will not be in my life. I don’t have to fight them. I don’t have to associate myself with them. I can have kind, beautifully loving people in my life because I can be loving and kind.